今后打算用一种新的体裁写我的博文：雨夹雪--既中且英，不中不英。其中的道理以后慢慢自现。
今天要谈的是 anger management.
有人问我：“我老是生气，如何对治？”
I didn't have a ready answer at the time... 恰恰是因为我的答案太多了。
“生气”跟 anger不能完全对应，因为生气伤的一定是自己，because you "generate" this "energy (of blame and irritation)" within yourself. You might (want to) direct it to another person, but it's not certain that the intended target will receive it. However, it is certain that you yourself will bear the brunt of this self-inflicted energy outburst.
但是, for all practical purposes and to simplify the argument, let's draw a parallel between 生气 and anger.
对不起，看看时间不早，我要睡觉了，所以长话短说。But once I cut a long story short, this blog post becomes top-heavy....
But who cares?
三个问题，很要命的三个问题：
(1) Admit it... there's pleasure to be derived from being angry, isn't there? Sense it. Go deeper and sense it. There you have it. Why? It's energy. You feel more ALIVE when you are angry and you get a "kick" out of it.
如果生气伤了自己、伤了他人，你决心“戒掉”它。那么再问这两个问题：
(2) Can you live without this pleasure?
(3) Can you find a substitute for this pleasure?

这样一来，开头的那个问题就几乎等于以下这些问题了：
我有烟瘾，该如何对治？
我爱喝酒，该如何对治
我性欲很强，该如何对治？

这都跟能量有关。首先想清楚：有必要戒掉吗？
所以在 问Can I live without this pleasure之前，先问问自己：Can I live with it?